Why Your Words Matter to Your Style and Self-Esteem


Why you should be careful about your self-talk and how they influence your style and self-esteem


In this video with Jill Chivers of Shop Your Wardrobe we discuss the importance of words, self-care and self-esteem.

I’ve mentioned this topic of self-talk before here, as I really think it’s a super important one.

Tell us your strategy for stopping your negative self-talk? We’d love to know how you manage to keep those gremlins out of your head, because your language impacts profoundly on your style.

Here is some further reading you may find useful in combatting your negative words:

What flaw is that?

Why it’s so hard to find pants that fit (and it’s not about you)

Improve your body image

Why you should think about your body as a room

There is no age limit to style

Embrace the body you have today

Why your clothes don’t fit and you shouldn’t feel bad

Why the number on the label may be lying to you


Plus more from Jill Chivers:

About being enough, and enoughness:


Simple truths about self care


Preloved, the documentary I was the focus of, which has a theme of self-talk/self-loathing

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  • Dear Imogen & Jill, you ladies are awesome! Very good video – thank you!
    Some 30 years ago I stopped being a compulsive nailbiter with a similar technique that you mentioned Imogen – my boyfriend at the time would give me a real hard slap on the hand that went into my mouth – and I’ve been cured within 7 days and have never been nailbiting again.
    I love your rubberband idea Imogen – and since I think my inner talk was allowed to run a bit wild and got a bit unruly, it definitely is time to spruce it up and to remember to be kinder to myself – I’ll implement your rubberband idea! Thanks for that! 😉

  • I enjoyed your video. Internal negative talk of self judgment or self criticism is simultaneously a sign of low self esteem and a perpetuator of low self esteem . I used to be very self critical and would get into the self beat up mode. In addition to do some deeper work of clearing negative emotions, I became very aware of my internal self talk, I would question it and I would replace any negative thoughts with positive ones. Nowadays is rare for me to get into negative self talk.

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