Dress Yourself With Kindness With many of us having put on some weight during the past 2 years due to the stress of living through a once in a 100-year pandemic I’ve been getting swathes of emails from women who are dissatisfied with their bodies and feeling “less than” or “not good enough” or somehow…
In This Video 0.08 What is your view on wearing blouses or tops that are longer than the sweater or jacket over the top? Doesn’t it draw attention to the hips? 2.05 – With a high value contrast with dark hair, how can I wear a light coloured turtleneck top and create the right ideal…
In This Video 0.08 How to get ideas for outfits when all the inspiration is on slim young women – it’s hard to translate this to my size 3.00 – Finding clothes that fit and are affordable when you’re short and plus size 8.13 – I’m a short waisted pear shape (A Shape) is there…
In This Video 0.08 A shape and find it hard to balance my hips and hide my tummy – any tips? 4.34 Finding clothes for the over 70s for a retired casual lifestyle when you’re a large regular size or small plus size 9.47 I can’t seem to nail down fashion guidelines for my shape…
In This Video 0.08 – I like Elegant Chic as polished and poised suits me – but I have a casual lifestyle – how can I work with my Opulent palette and have ease in my clothes but capture some elegant chic style on a budget? 4.56 I have small shoulders and big hips and…
In This Video 0.08 I’ve lost a lot of weight and have to rebuild my wardrobe – until now I’ve used clothes as armour – how do I find my style? 5.25 I’m short X shape with short waist. Petite rules seems to overemphasise the bust and I want a creative style – what to…
In this video: Why do pants pull across the crotch? Is it possible to incorporate dark jeans and pants into outfits when you have a light palette? Can you love style but still subscribe to a minimalist wardrobe? Pants Fit P is for Pants Why It’s So Hard to Find Pants that Fit The…
Your skin covers your body, it’s always visible even in small parts when you cover up with clothing. The human eye cannot help but look at skin, our eyes are naturally drawn to where the skin is (skin can be exciting – that’s why there is such a thing as strippers, and why most work…
As I discussed in this post on my Three Rules of Horizontal Lines, line in clothing design creates optical illusions depending on the direction of the line. Verticals lengthen. Partly because they go up and down (giving height) but also becasue our eyes move along them more quickly than they do on horizontal or…
So Vogue UK magazine has published a piece about how cleavage and boobs are out of fashion. Sure they may have meant that fashions that make cleavage and boobs the focus, but I have an issue with a mass market magazine telling us that the way a body part appears can be in or out…
In this video with Jill Chivers of Shop Your Wardrobe we discuss the importance of words, self-care, and self-esteem. I’ve mentioned this topic of self-talk before here, as I really think it’s a super important one. Tell us your strategy for stopping your negative self-talk? We’d love to know how you manage to keep…
Why Should There be an Age Limit to Style? I can’t tell you how many women (as they say, if I had $1 for every time someone said to me I’m too old to be stylish, well I’d have quite a few more dollars!) think they are too old to either care about style, image…
Why Your Clothes Don’t Fit But You Are Perfect Yes you are gorgeous. You are perfect just the way you are. Mass market clothing is not being made for you as an individual, to fit and flatter (which is why you need to expect alterations). It’s about selling to the most people possible (it’s about…
Loved this post from Vintage Current about how a cat call made Candice’s day and helped her think more positively about body image This post from Sal about seeing her body through the lens of style is a great read. Carly shares how embracing a label has been powerful for her. Grown up dressing and…
Recently I was reminded of the complete toxicity of comparison by one of my clients. She couldn’t seem to ever see herself in a positive light as she didn’t feel even when wearing her best, which she liked in theory, but she never felt great or thought she looked good because she compared her unique…
One year ago today I had what I all my “anti-boob job”, a breast reduction. Now a year on I thought I’d share my experiences. As most of you regular readers are aware, my weight has fluctuated. In 2008 I was about 10kg larger than I am now, by April 2009 I was a pretty…
One year ago today I started on my 5:2 Way of Eating (I don’t call it the D word) and today I’m around 15kg lighter and a whole lot healthier. I’ve written about how I’ve done it and what it is here. When I started, I was on cholesterol medication (my whole family is on…
The other day I was talking to a client about weight loss. She mentioned how she was in the process of losing weight, using a system of pre-packaged foods, but she felt hungry all the time, so was finding it really hard. Given that this company advertises that you won’t feel hungry, as do many…
As many of you are aware, I’ve lost a significant amount of weight in the past 7 months. 15kg (33 pounds) to be exact, not including the just under 1kg loss of my recent breast reduction surgery. As someone who has not been easily slim since I discovered chocolate when I was 15, I’ve always…
Many people underestimate the importance of body language in our day to day interactions. In this TedX talk, Allan Pease, explains that then speaking to an audience, the way in which we orient our palms can dramatically alter the way that the audience perceives us. Not only that, but palm orientation also affects audience memory…
Hard to believe but I’m now 6 weeks post my reduction, and I’ve forgotten what it felt like to have larger breasts (my shoulders and back do still feel like there is less strain on them than there used to be). I’m now allowed to go back to higher impact exercise (though I haven’t run…
