How to Stop Second-Guessing Your Style Purchases (And Give Yourself Permission to Buy the Good Stuff) Have you ever stood in a store, holding something beautiful, but put it back because it felt too expensive or too risky? Michelle did. In fact, she wrote in with a question I hear all the time: “I have…
How to Find Clothes That Fit Your Body (Without the Frustration) If you’ve ever stood in a change room surrounded by rejected piles of clothes, you are not alone. Most women over 40 tell me they feel frustrated trying to find garments that fit well and flatter their shape. The good news? It’s not your…
How to Confidently Mix Colours and Patterns Without the Overwhelm Do you ever open your wardrobe, pull out a few pieces, and then put them straight back because you’re not sure how to put them together? You’re not alone. Many women I work with—even highly intelligent, accomplished women—tell me they struggle with mixing colours and…
Especially If You’re Over 40 Every new season brings a wave of trends—some exciting, others bewildering. And if you’ve ever found yourself wondering, “Should I be wearing this?” you’re not alone. A lovely reader recently asked, “How do I incorporate new trends into my existing style?” It’s a brilliant question—and one that taps into something…
If you’ve ever bought something that looked amazing in the store… only to find it sitting in your wardrobe unworn, you’re not alone. In fact, research shows most of us only wear about 10-20% of our clothes 80% of the time. The rest? Guilt, clutter, and wasted money. But it doesn’t have to be that…
Petite and Stylish: Why the Problem Isn’t You—It’s the Pants You’ve done your part. You’ve browsed every petite section, tried every cut of trousers, and experimented with tops that are supposed to “flatter.” Still, nothing fits quite right. And if you’ve ever looked in the mirror and wondered, “Is it just my body?” this is…
Do you have any clothes in your wardrobe that you don’t wear? Unless you’ve just done a cull and a wardrobe audit, the answer is most likely YES! You are completely normal if this is you because there are so many tricks and techniques retailers use to get you to buy, which is why I’m…
When money is tight, style can feel like an unnecessary luxury. But here’s an important truth: style, when money is tight, isn’t shallow. It’s strategic. Even in financially stressful times, how you dress can significantly impact your confidence, self-image, and even your opportunities. Style, when money is tight, isn’t about chasing trends; it’s about using…
Identifying High Quality Garments Beyond the Price Tag There…
Have you ever stood in front of your wardrobe and realised… It’s a sea of black? Black is everywhere. It’s in every store, every online catalogue, and likely, every corner of your closet. But here’s the question we need to ask: Why? Why do so many intelligent, capable women default to wearing black, even when…
Thrifting can be a great way of finding affordable, good-quality clothing, but there are some key features to look for when choosing what to purchase from a thrift store. There are many reasons to purchase your clothing secondhand, apart from just cost: a more sustainable planet is just one of them, as the clothes do…
“A rut is a grave with the ends kicked out.” Vance Havner Let’s be honest: a style rut isn’t just about clothes. It’s about identity, confidence, and self-perception. If your wardrobe feels stuck, tired, or out of sync with the woman you are today, you’re not alone. But the good news? You can get unstuck.…
In This Video Do you have a non-model body that means finding clothes to fit and flatter is hard? You’re not alone. 0:10 I am basically underweight by 10 pounds so I have extremely skinny legs and a type 2 diabetic belly that’s always bloated, I struggle figuring out what to wear 2:13 My…
In This Video 0:08 when I wear casual clothes I look like I’m not trying – I want to look more put together 3:28 I need to revamp my style post double mastectomy. So my body has completely changed shape. I’m also 63 and moving into a new season of my life and need to…
Have you ever stood in front of your wardrobe trying to figure out what to wear, and you hear it whispering to you, “you’re fat… you’re frumpy… you’re so unstylish”? We need to talk about wardrobe manipulation. Yes, that sneaky way your closet quietly undermines your confidence and decision-making. The kind where you’re five minutes from…
If you’re wondering how to wear classic style without looking frumpy, you’re not alone. Many women love the clean, timeless appeal of classic pieces like trench coats, blazers, and pencil skirts—but they can sometimes feel dull or outdated if not styled intentionally. And if you’re petite or fall in between standard sizing, you know how…
If you’ve got a closet overflowing with clothes but still feel like you have nothing to wear, it might be time to stop over-shopping and start styling. This modern wardrobe dilemma is more common than you’d think—and it has both psychological and industry-driven roots. Let’s break down why this happens and what you can do…
Finding clothes and shoes that fit well, feel comfortable, and align with your style can be a real challenge—especially when you have specific needs like a low heel, natural materials, or sustainable fashion. The fashion industry often caters to trends rather than real women’s bodies and preferences, making the search feel frustrating and overwhelming. If…
There’s something magical about stepping into a thrift store or vintage boutique. If you love vintage and second-hand fashion, you know the thrill of uncovering unique, high-quality pieces that bring personality to your wardrobe. But mastering the art of thrifting requires skill—one that can transform your personal style while being budget-friendly and sustainable. Why Vintage…
A reader recently wrote to me and asked: “How do I look good when I’m overweight? I am menopausal and find jackets difficult to wear with long cardigans underneath, as I live in the Arctic.” First, it’s important to recognize that being overweight is not a body shape. There are many different body shapes, and…
In This Video 0.07 My challenge is finding the right colours for my summer wardrobe when they aren’t current fashions 2.34 How do I incorporate my essence by John Kitchener into my style relating to my 8 shape body? When I do personality quizzes I get more Classic than what I got with Kitchener which…
