These are two interesting meta-programs and you may find that you work with one in some aspects of your life, and the other in a different part. I know for sure that I’m wired that way.
For instance, whenever I buy a car, I buy it out of necessity. I buy a car that is great value for money, that will last and last so that I don’t have to buy another one for a long time. I buy a car that will get me from A to B and that fulfills my requirements on size and features, but that’s about it. Have you seen that “He/She bought a jeep!” advertisement?
Well that’s aimed at people who are Possibility car buyers – where the car let’s them go all sorts of places on many adventures (I assume any car can do that and I don’t need a Jeep). They are advertising that anything is possible in their car (though the reality is most people use them as the family taxi doing all those mundane daily tasks).
Now, the place I choose to live is all about possibility, it’s why I love to live in a big city, with lots of possibilities for places to go, things to see, people to meet. I’ve lived in a small village and a small city and I just found the lack of possibility constricting and stifling.
When I create a new program such as Evolve Your Style or 7 Steps to Style, I’m all about possibility, it’s about expansion or creating something much bigger and different in people’s lives. Of opening up possibilities in their wardrobes they’d never considered before. Of opening up opportunities in their lives. Taking you away from the daily necessity of dressing, to the possibility of expressing who you are at your core, through your image.
If you have a wardrobe full of clothes that don’t suit your current lifestyle (and they are not from a previous lifestyle, but purchases with a dream) I’d suggest you are a possibility clothing shopper, where you find an item and can imagine that you will have an opportunity to wear it somewhere fancy, that maybe your current lifestyle doesn’t really include.
I will always remember a shopping trip with a young mother of young kids who lived in an outback country town and she was intent on purchasing a white silk formal dress even though her lifestyle didn’t support it (and she had nowhere to wear it). I realise now that to her it opened up possibilities (though the reality is, many of these possibility purchases are wasted and are never worn).
If you take what life offers without looking further, then you are more of a Necessity person. You may also be happier with a minimalist or capsule based wardrobe.
If you are looking beyond what you can see to what may be, then you are more of a Possibility person. You are more likely to be an Options person too and enjoy a larger more varied wardrobe.
So tell me – necessity or possibility for you?
More blog posts in this series on the ABCs (Appearance, Behaviour and Communication)