With my kids being school and pre-school age, I get to spend a bit of time at the school gates and see how the other mums (moms) dress.
Yes I know when you’ve got kids your life changes and it’s not so much about you anymore. Your focus becomes your kids, you end up being the least important person in your life.
It’s very easy when our babies are young and we’re getting spit-up on daily, covered by mucky hand prints and not feeling great about our post-baby figures to end up in a uniform of ill-fitting, unflattering clothes (the tracksuit is often a culprit). But once that first few months is past, how to reclaim ourselves, but still be practical for the trips to the playground and all that cleaning up that is such a part of most mothers’ lives?
Sure, you get pregnant, you grow out of your clothes, you have the baby, you get back into some of them, time has passed, are they still worth wearing? Yes you may say ‘fashion is for the young’ but do you want to appear old before your time? Put on the scrap heap well before your used-by date?
Dressing dated and saggy, baggy, daggy, will make you look frumpy. I recently did a talk to a bunch of 50 – 70 years old, I asked who wanted to look frumpy, dated and old – not one woman said that was the look she wanted to aspire to, yet there was a lot of it in the room.
So what tips can I give you to help you go from this:
So what is it about what these women are wearing that’s doing them the damage – let’s start at the top and work down.
Tops – jersey knits are a great part of any wardrobe, but they need to fit well, so anything that is too baggy needs to go. If you feel it needs to be tucked in because it’s a bit roomy, then it’s too big for you! Clothes that look best tucked are the ones that are already fitted.
Tucking- unless you have a long, defined waist, tucking, particularly into high waisted garments, tends to make you look dumpy and frumpy and should be avoided.
Jewellery near the face is minimal, the woman on the left has a small, inconsequential chain, it would be better if this was tucked inside her tops if the piece is about sentiment, rather than making an accessory choice statement. Try a statement piece, something with some interest or detail that draws attention up to your face.
Belts – here we have belts drawing big old horizontal lines across the stomach, beware, if this is not your slim point.
Mom jeans – OK, notice the length, ankle length, this was the fashionable length of jeans in mid 1990s, but now we tend to wear our jeans and trousers much longer, so this is instantly ageing.
Then there are the white socks and clumpy shoes, comfort doesn’t have to be clumpy in appearance.
Instead why not look for something like this
A pair of jeans, dark denim is always dressier than light denim. Look for jeans that don’t have any distressing. They need to be as long as possible without dragging on the ground.
Team them with a pair of embellished flat sandals or thongs (flip-flops). Or for cold weather a pair of boots.
Look for well fitting t-shirts with some interest at the neckline. Throw a casual biker style jacket over the top if it’s cool.
Don’t forget your bag, find something that’s easy to carry, fits all the stuff you need, but has some style.
And accessories make a difference, adding a necklace or pendant will create a great focal point to your outfit. Make it a personality piece, it doesn’t have to be expensive, scope out markets or websites like etsy for great pieces.