Have you worked through this series of exercises to help you discover your style – what have you learned about your personal style?
What are your style words?
Have you got multiple style personalities or are you more of a one style woman?
Did you discover anything about your style that surprised you?
Have you figured out what you’re doing well and what you need to improve upon?
How Have Formative Style Messages Impacted on Your Style?
As you grow up, there will be many messages you receive both verbally and non-verbally from your family and culture about what you wear, what you should wear and what is appropriate. You will also get messages about your body which can impact on your body image and well as messages about how you fit into the world and if you measure up.
These messages that you may not even realise you’ve receive can still be impacting on your style choices today and possibly in a negative way.
Something I discovered when assessing my style and influences when I did these exercises for myself a few years back when thinking about formative experiences I realised why I’m such a bargain hunter – and at that time to the point where I couldn’t buy an item if it wasn’t on sale. When I thought back to my early shopping experiences, I heard my mothers voice in my head say “I’m not going to buy you any new shoes as you’ll just grow out of them.” and “I’m not going to buy you any clothes as you wear a school uniform most of the time and it’s not worth it.”
What I heard in my head was “you’re not worth it” and “you don’t deserve to have any clothes/shoes”. So I became an extreme bargain hunter – I still love a bargain, but I can now see that I am worth buying things at full price, I don’t have to just have the leftovers at the end, the scraps that nobody else wanted because that was all I’m worth.
I realised what a destructive voice this was for me and set about changing my thought patterns. Because I also understand my style so well, I am also well aware when I find something that is truly me, that it is worth spending the money on as I’ll get the wear out of it and in the end, it will be a bargain as I love it so much and it makes me happy.
What about you? I’d love to know what you’ve discovered about your early style messages!