“A rut is a grave with the ends kicked out.” Vance Havner Let’s be honest: a style rut isn’t just about clothes. It’s about identity, confidence, and self-perception. If your wardrobe feels stuck, tired, or out of sync with the woman you are today, you’re not alone. But the good news? You can get unstuck.…
In This Video 0.08 Finding the new confidence to wear what I like and feel right wearing and not to try tone it down so I just blend in – how do I create interesting outfits and not keep wearing the same things together? Where Does Confidence in Appearance Come From? How Your Clothes Impact…
Your wardrobe might look full, but is it truly telling your story? As we evolve – through career shifts, life changes, or inner growth – our wardrobes often get left behind, quietly clinging to past versions of ourselves. If you feel a nagging disconnect between how you look and how you feel, your wardrobe might…
Reader Question: I wonder what thoughts you have on double denim for those of us in our 60s whose age group invented and have worn the trend days in days gone by Is it something we can pull off or will we be perceived as too try hard i love denim and wear it almost…
In This Video 0.08 My weight. I am 30 kilos overweight and even under Drs and nutritionists and gyms, nothing changes. Clothes just don’t look good. Body Image and Your Style 11 Ways to Improve Your Body Image, Self-Acceptance and Your Style The Myth of the ‘Ideal Weight’: Don’t Wait to Look Stylish What’s…
Dressing to create an illusion around the shape of your body, is something we tend to think as a modern invention, yet even the Victorians were partial to using clothing to create illusions about their body shape to create the ideal shape of the day (an hourglass with a small waist). I found this Instagram…
Let’s be honest: getting dressed shouldn’t feel like a battle—and yet, for so many of us, it does. Especially when your wardrobe feels chaotic, your body has changed, and you’re short on time (and patience). The good news? Style doesn’t have to be hard. In fact, with the right knowledge and systems, it can become…
In This Video Do you have a non-model body that means finding clothes to fit and flatter is hard? You’re not alone. 0:10 I am basically underweight by 10 pounds so I have extremely skinny legs and a type 2 diabetic belly that’s always bloated, I struggle figuring out what to wear 2:13 My…
If you’ve ever stood in front of a wardrobe full of clothes thinking, “Why don’t I have anything to wear?” —you’re not alone. Recently, a reader emailed me and said “I’d love some help with getting my wardrobe more organized and stop buying clothes that don’t suit me. I tend to admire certain styles on…
If you’ve ever stared at a wardrobe full of clothes and thought, “I have nothing to wear,” you’re not alone. The good news? You probably don’t need new clothes—you just need new eyes. Shopping your closet is one of the easiest, most budget-friendly ways to reinvigorate your style and fall back in love with what…
In This Video 0:08 when I wear casual clothes I look like I’m not trying – I want to look more put together 3:28 I need to revamp my style post double mastectomy. So my body has completely changed shape. I’m also 63 and moving into a new season of my life and need to…
Have you ever stood in front of your wardrobe trying to figure out what to wear, and you hear it whispering to you, “you’re fat… you’re frumpy… you’re so unstylish”? We need to talk about wardrobe manipulation. Yes, that sneaky way your closet quietly undermines your confidence and decision-making. The kind where you’re five minutes from…
If you’re wondering how to wear classic style without looking frumpy, you’re not alone. Many women love the clean, timeless appeal of classic pieces like trench coats, blazers, and pencil skirts—but they can sometimes feel dull or outdated if not styled intentionally. And if you’re petite or fall in between standard sizing, you know how…
In This Video 0:08 I struggle with smart casual dressing and I want to have more confidence and feel good. 5:18 I find prints tricky, I’m not sure about finding my preferred shapes and colours when current trends don’t reflect them. My daughter says I should just wear solid colours and neutrals, but I…
If you’ve got a closet overflowing with clothes but still feel like you have nothing to wear, it might be time to stop over-shopping and start styling. This modern wardrobe dilemma is more common than you’d think—and it has both psychological and industry-driven roots. Let’s break down why this happens and what you can do…
How to Choose and Style a Striped Shirt Based on Your Personality Styling striped shirts by personality dressing style is a fun and expressive way to take a classic wardrobe piece and make it completely your own. Striped shirts may be timeless, but that doesn’t mean they need to look identical on everyone. By aligning…
In this Video 0:08 I’d love some help with getting my wardrobe more organised and stop buying clothes that don’t suit me – I tend to admire certain styles on others but they don’t feel like me – what’s the solution? 4:04 How can I get ready in under 15 minutes per day and…
If you’ve ever stood in front of the mirror wondering how to make a caramel-toned (or camel) jacket work with your body, lifestyle (and your flats because comfort is key to feeling stylish), you’re not alone. In fact, this was one of the questions I got in my recent 7 Steps to Style members Q&A…
As we get older, it’s common to worry about dressing ‘too young,’ but in reality, that fear can lead to playing it too safe and avoid current fashions. If you’ve ever wondered how to stop dressing too safe while still feeling like you’re not going to look like you’re too young (or feeling ridiculous),…
I was recently asked by one of my 7 Steps to Style program members to give some tips on how to style a chambray shirt in a more feminine, elegant way. Chambray shirts have long been a wardrobe staple—soft, breathable, and that perfect shade of relaxed blue. But let’s be honest: while they’re incredibly versatile,…
Life is full of changes, and our bodies are no exception. Whether it’s due to menopause, weight fluctuations, medication, or other life events, you may find that what once made you feel fabulous no longer works. If you’re struggling with how to rediscover your style after a body change and regain your style confidence, don’t…
